Self Care, Looking After Yourself, Be Selfish. (1 min Read)

Putting yourself first, self-care isn’t wrong. If you neglect yourself then you perform badly in every aspect of your life. As I’ve got older I’ve learnt to get better at this, but I’m still learning.

Here is my list of things I do to take care of me, my personal self-care. Yours will be different of course, I thought I’d share mine.

Self-Care, Love who you are.

  • Start each day with green tea and lemon water after my dawn prayers.
  • Eat a good breakfast, usually with egg.
  • Get to the gym at least three times a week.
  • Say No. Don’t do things you don’t want to or feel uncomfortable doing. Never be a doormat.
  • Prioritise my health by getting regular checkups, smear tests, breast examinations, taking supplements and don’t ever put off doctors visits.
  • Avoid negativity and the people who spread it.
  • Draw a line under the past and don’t let it hold you back.
  • Go to bed before 11pm. I’m not good for much if I haven’t slept well!
  • Make the most of every day.
  • Limit Screen time when with family.
  • Love who you are and what you do.
  • If there’s something in your life upsetting you, change it. I’m working hard on this one.
  • Learn a new skill every year, last years was swimming!

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Get Vitamin D in Your Child’s Diet. (2 min Read)

Everybody is Talking about Vitamin D

We keep hearing how vital vitamin D is to our health. It is, in fact, low levels can cause all kinds of problems. These can include  a low immune system,  bone weakness and even Rickets. Skin problems like psoriasis and stomach issues including ulcers can also be a problem. It’s interesting that a study conducted in Lebanon concluded that children need more vitamin D than adults. 10  times more. It’s amazing to think that children in such a sunny country might not be getting enough, what chance have my own offspring got in the cloudy U.K?

Eggs and Salmon

Getting it into our kids is not easy. Despite knowing they are mostly ineffective I still give my 8-year-old a multi-vitamin to crunch along with his morning cereal. However, if you really mean business the best supplements are sprays you can buy from health food shops. A quick minty squirt and that’s 1000mmg of the vitamin. Eggs, salmon, mackerel and breakfast cereals are all great sources. Eggs are my favourite way to feed my children, omelettes, egg salad, boiled with toast, endless ways. One of my sons has an egg allergy so I ‘ve had to become more inventive especially as he has been diagnosed with low vitamin D. So I’m busy trying to find new ways to feed him. If you have any others suggests, please leave a comment below.

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Selfish Mothers.

So the new trend at the moment is mothers loudly declaring that –

“I Love my daughter, I wish I’d never had her”

Guardian Weekend Magazine 11/02/17

Yesterday I didn’t get a chance to read the entire article,  Today I’ve read it, researched the whole movement and yes it’s a thing, bloggers, writers, Instagrammers everywhere online there are a few of these regretful parents.

I feel deep sadness reading these quotes, real anger and a need to go and hug one of my children.

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Sick Days

Today is a sick day, not as in “this day is super cool” more, everyone has the lurgy, myself included. Today is a day to rest and heal, drink tea and write, read and catch up on my work, in between bathroom trips and sipping lemsip, this bug is really getting me down.

I’ve managed to get dressed finally and feed a young man, I’d administered physio, he thought his legs were broken this morning, he had a cramp. Some tough love from me, “stretch it out, yes I know it hurts, now walk on it, no, walk properly”

Had left him distraught until he realised he could run, he ran laps around the house to celebrate!

My third son is still in bed, I really must go up and check on him, 1pm is late even for him. My lot have a great knack of really milking a cold for all its worth, I suppose because its only of the times I’ll fuss over them. I’m not usually a fussy mother, not my style. I’m raising men. Men who can do their own laundry, wash up and even my youngest can cook a meal. But when they are ill they don’t have to lift a finger, I’ll sit by their beds while they fight a fever, rubVickss into their (sometimes hairy) chests and make soup, endless honey and lemon and run hot baths with olbas oil in, filling the house with nose clearing vapours, buy their favorite ice cream and watch endless TV to keep them company.

It is nice to feel needed, time flies and my boys are nearly all grown. Sad to think that in ten years or so they’ll have their own lives and wives to share them with. I hope they remember fondly feeling safe and loved.

Whats sick day traditions do you have? Please share in the comments.


Clean Eating v’s Dirty Eating.

Surprise, the whole, dairy free, gluten free, carb free, fat-free diet trends of the last decade or so are being exposed as maybe not as healthy as they look! psst, let’s see how long the coconut milk lattes exist in Starbucks shall we, they taste awful in my opinion.

BBC have launched several programs looking into the latest health trends, hinting that some of our favourite Instagram health gurus might be suffering from their own issues, how healthy is it to photograph every meal and document all your fitness routines anyway? cough anorexia cough…

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Ramadan Recipes for Iftar

Ramadan is literally around the corner, for those thats dont know its the month of fasting, Muslims wake before dawn and have a meal ad then don’t eat or drink until sundown.  Naturally during the long hours of fasting our minds turn to what we ll eat at that evening meal called Iftar. usually we break the fast on water and dates, dates are perfect for this as they are very high in easily digested sugar. Then we pray maghrib the prayer after sunset before having our meal. If we’re feeling famished we ll eat before praying but its not a great idea as you can imagine after a day without your instinct is to be a bit greedy thus making the bowing of islamic prayer a little uncomfortable afterwards !

Here are my favourite all time Ramadan recipes from around the Muslim world.


I usually cook this in the slow cooker so the delicious smell fills the house for hours before we breakfast.

  • 500g cubed lamb
  • 1 onion chopped
  • 3 cloves garlic crushed
  • 1 stick celery chopped
  • 1 medium carrot chopped
  • 1 red pepper cubed
  • 1 can cooked chickpeas
  • 1 green chilli
  • 1 tbsp cumin seeds roasted and ground
  • 1 tsp black pepper
  • 1/2 tsp ground tumeric

I literally throw everything in the pot and cover with hot water and set to cook on low for 6-8 hours. I dont bother frying anything first but you can if you like, I sometimes add a can of chopped tomatoes and a handful of broken vermicelli but my lot prefer it meaty and simple , serve with fresh lemon squeezed over the top and a drizzle of olive oil and fresh bread. Often as kids we’d eat this for the morning meal as well Ramadan became harira month.


We like soups heres a great chicken noodle soup recipe, filling and refreshing.


We love a hearty lasagne with a big green salad, I use beef but you can use turkey mince or even a vegetarian option.

Irish Stew

My mixed heritage means feel I’m getting back to my celtic roots whenever I cook an irish stew, I use my trusty slow cooker, it gets a lot of use in Ramadan because I dislike cooking while I am fasting.

  • 500g cubed beef or lamb
  • 1 onion chopped
  • 1 leek chopped
  • 2 or 3 carrots in chunks
  • 1/2 diced swede
  • 2 waxy potatoes in chunks
  • a handful of dried pearl barley
  • a couple of bay leaves
  • dried herbs of your choice, I like parsley and rosemary, but whatever you’ve got is good, avoid coriander though it just doesnt work.
  • a knob of butter
  • 1 pint hot stock.

I brown off the meat for this dish and then remove it from the pan and sweat the vegetables to soften them before adding it add to the slow cooker covering with hot stock and leave to cook for 6 hours or so, towards the end you can add some dumplings simply put 150g plain flour in a bowl rub in 50g of cold hard butter, add a handful of herbs, chives or sage work nicely, bund together with a little milk and form into golf ball size and drop into the pot, they will swell, we like ours BIG, you can make them smaller and you can leave out the herbs.


We use halal turkey rashers and halal beef salami and stock. Anything that has pulses and rice will help with hydration the following day which is something to think about when we are fasting 19+ hour days.

Cowboy Style Baked Beans

Again with my trusty slow cooker ! I use red kidney bean but any are good,I start this with DRIED beans I boil them for 10-15 mins and skip off any scum, them I rinse them and throw them in the pot with a chopped onion, crushed clove of garlic, dried fennel, a few new potatoes and a BIG spoon of malt syrup or molasses, a tea spoon of chilli powder, you can add BBQ seasoning too if you like and a table spoon of tomato puree.A bit of chopped sausage or turkey rashers add flavour but are not essential.

If you don’t have a slow-cooker or crockpot you can do the recipes on the hob or in a covered pot in the oven. Cook slowly for a long time on a low heat because the beans are dry and to infuse the favours to their full potential. Ideally you want to leave it to cook overnight for at least 10 hours. It’s long but well worth the wait.

If you have any recipes you recommend please add and share 🙂